Hitting Your Spiritual Rock Bottom

One of the biggest misconceptions about drinking is that you need to have a rock bottom to quit. That there will be some earth-shattering, in your face sign that will tell you that you have a problem with alcohol and that you need to head to the nearest church basement.

Do not pass GO. Do not collect $200.

While those kinds of big rock bottoms do happen, you might not have that kind of drama leading up to your sobriety. Instead, you most likely will hit a spiritual rock bottom. Where you know, deep down inside, that alcohol is no longer working for you. It’s like there’s a little voice inside your head telling you to just let go.

But, you don’t know how to listen to that voice.

You see your friends and family members drinking around you. You can’t have a problem, if they don’t have one. Your drinking looks the same as their drinking.

What you don’t know though, is how shitty alcohol is making them feel. You can’t possibly know what they’re dealing with because you never talk about it. Sure, you make jokes about hangovers, and how much your head hurts, and how you need to wear sunglasses in the house. Or, you talk about crazy things that happened the night before, maybe even joking about how you blacked out, or threw up.

But, you never talk about how alcohol is slowly dimming your light. How you feel so empty. How you feel so lonely. How you’re tired of waking up with strange men you met the night before. Or, how tired you are of the distance between yourself and your partner. How you talk about your problems all the time, but are never able to find solutions because the wine keeps getting in the way. Or, how your social life has been reduced to any activity that involves alcohol. That you no longer even recognize yourself anymore. That your eyes have lost their sparkle. That you feel so fucking numb.

So, how do you move past your spiritual rock bottom?

You get real quiet. Listen to that little voice. What is it saying about your nightly glass of wine, or your weekend binge drinking?

When you’re ready, reach out for help. That can be talking to a trusted friend, or co-worker. Maybe you know someone who’s sober. Talk to them about their journey.

The simple act of connecting with someone who understands what you’re going through, and who can offer a judgement-free, shame-free space, can make all the difference in your recovery journey.

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