We need to get really honest with ourselves, because as women we’re told not to be honest. We’re supposed to put away our feelings and become sacrificial caregivers to everyone around us, all the people in our lives.
Our job is to look after everyone without looking after ourselves. That is what a good woman is supposed to do. That is what a good mother is supposed to do. We are supposed to rush around our lives with our arms and hearts open, ready to rescue anyone who needs it, except we never think to rescue ourselves. Or we only think to rescue ourselves when things get really bad, or when we won’t inconvenience anyone, or when we truly are out of choices.
We’re supposed to try harder to make things work, when we’re already at a breaking point of trying to keep things together. When we’re wearing ourselves out trying to find this elusive idea of balance, and we beat ourselves up when we can’t get there.
We don’t know how to ask for help, or we can’t get used to the idea of help because that would mean we’ve failed. And that’s hard when we’ve been told we can have it all. When we see others that are doing it all, or at least they seem to be doing it all from our vantage point. Balancing mothering and careers, and date night seamlessly and effortlessly.
The mission of my work is to provide women with a shame free safe space where they can begin to explore their relationship with alcohol. I do this using the framework of anchor pages, and the process of sketch booking, which becomes an alternative coping mechanism that women can adapt to their daily lives and routines.